Although it is as valid and legitimate an option as heterosexuality and homosexuality, bisexuality is the sexual orientation that often goes unnoticed and the one that is taken the least seriously. This occurs because in the collective imagination there are still many myths about bisexuality that generate confusion and prejudices about this sexual orientation. In this article we tell you which are the most common.
The 5 most common myths about bisexuality
Bisexuality is the sexual orientation that identifies those who feel sexual, emotional or romantic attraction towards people of the same and opposite sex – not necessarily at the same time, nor in the same way, nor with the same intensity. It is taken little seriously both within and outside the LGBT + community because of some myths about bisexuality that are widespread, such as the following:
1. “It’s a phase”
This is the prejudice against the entire LGBT + community par excellence (and the phrase that young people hear most from their parents when they come out of the closet), but it takes on a special importance in the case of bisexual people because it is considered that bisexuality does not it is an orientation in itself, but a transitional stage between heterosexuality and homosexuality. But it’s not true: bisexuality is a defined sexual orientation that does not change over time . They can have a homosexual partner or a straight partner, but that does not change that in the abstract they are still attracted to both sexes.
It should be noted, however, that many gays and lesbians initially declare themselves “bisexual” after years of deceiving themselves and trying to fit in by having the heterosexual relationships that society and their families expected of them, because it takes time to understand that, Despite their best efforts, they were homosexual from the start (even if they couldn’t or didn’t see it). But the fact that these situations occur does not mean that bisexuality does not exist, nor does it mean that it is always and in all cases a phase.
2. You have to like one of the two genres more
“ Ok, you are bisexual… But what do you prefer, men or women? Who is better in bed? ”Although it is a very simple concept to understand (everyone understands that you can like cheese and chocolate at the same time without having to choose just one, right?), Most people do not conceive the idea that someone may feel a physical or emotional attraction to men and women alike.
For this reason, the sexuality of ‘bi’ people is ultimately defined by the orientation of their partner : if a bisexual woman ends up sharing her life with another woman, it is because she was a ‘repressed dyke who finally dared to leave the wardrobe’; and, if, on the contrary, she ends up with a man, it means that ‘he was going through a phase of sexual experimentation’.
But the reality of bisexual people is much simpler than all that: they like the person regardless of what is between their legs. Boys can attract more physically and girls emotionally (or vice versa), they can like both sexes at the same level and in every way, there may be millions of nuances or none at all … But in the end, what “ attracts them the most ”, what they “ prefer ”, what they “ like the most ” is the person . No more. Whatever sex it is.
3. Bisexual people are promiscuous.
Another of the most famous myths about bisexuality is the one that describes bisexual people as “vicious”. People tend to think that what they really like is sex itself and that they don’t care who to practice it with, that bisexuality is just an excuse to be able to put more people to bed. But how much sex to have and with whom is a decision that each person makes freely and in which sexual preferences have little influence . You can be attracted to both men and women and you may not like or feel like having sex frequently.
4. Bisexuals are unfaithful and cannot have serious relationships
Most people think that if a bisexual person is with someone of a certain gender, they will always look for another person from the opposite because they cannot be ‘satisfied’ without both all the time. This prejudice has no reason to be for a simple reason: infidelity has to do with our personal decisions, not with sexual orientation . If a person (bisexual, gay or heterosexual) commits, it is understood that it is because they have found the person who makes them happy and completes them, so there is nothing to be missed or to look for outside of the relationship.
5. They are more likely to get venereal diseases
The risk of contracting venereal diseases is not contingent on bisexuality, but on the precautions taken during sex, regardless of who they have sex with.
